When you’re indulging in a passionate session that gives you pleasure, you kind of want the pleasure to be never-ending right? Whether it’s a spontaneous quickie in the morning or night or a sex marathon extending over a long weekend, the goal is often the same—ensuring that all partners have reached the peak of pleasure (sometimes more than once). Keeping everyone satisfied helps improve yoursex life, further improving your connection.
Therefore, knowing how to make the pleasure last longer when you’re in the throes can benefit you, regardless of whether you’re just starting or looking to rekindle the flame. From chatting it up to trying new things in the bedroom, it’s time to explore how to prolong pleasure in the bedroom!
Longer sex doesn’t mean only penetrative sex
Before exploring how to make your love-making sessions longer, let’s dispel a common assumption you might have when talking about the term “lasting longer.” Contrary to popular opinion, lasting longer doesn’t need to be just about penetrative sex. Sure, the ‘main course’ is important, but ‘entrees’ and ‘appetisers’ have their own importance.
Plus, don’t people always say it’s about the journey and not the destination? Well, the journey to longer sex is paved with ample foreplay, for sure. Be it indulging in simple things like oral sex, dirty talk, fondling, or taking things up a notch by indulging in a little support from playthings, lubricants, massagers, or vibe rings, elevating foreplay and extending it can help you last longer and set the anticipation like nothing else.
Tips to last longer in bed
Let’s delve into some tips that you can use to answer your question, “How to build sexual stamina?”
Sex-related
First and foremost, let’s explore tips you can use during sex to make your lovemaking session last longer:
Condoms
Condoms are a given during intercourse anyway, so why not use them to help you last longer? Confused? Let’s see how. You can opt for Durex’s mutual climax condoms which come with two benefits. One, they are dotted or ribbed in nature which speeds her up during intercourse. Two, they contain the Performa lubricant, which helps him last longer. This is a great way to help you last longer in bed and level the playing field between both of you.
Focus on your partner’s pleasure
Shift the focus away from intercourse if you find yourself reaching climax too quickly. Invest time in pleasuring your partner through various means—be it foreplay, oral sex, or what you prefer. This ensures both of you enjoy the encounter without worrying about the duration.
Switch locations
Switch locations to help add a layer of excitement—be it your living room, the shower, a terrace or even your car—the novelty of the location can not only help you both get stimulated easily but also break monotony, which can help you last longer.
Use thicker or extra-time condoms
Another way of incorporating condoms to help you last longer in bed is by using thicker condoms that slow you down as they reduce sensitivity. Alternatively, you can opt for extra-time condoms such as Durex’s climax delay condoms, which contain the Performa lubricant with benzocaine to help you last longer.
Delay intercourse; focus on sensual pleasure
Delaying penetration and instead focusing on sensual pleasures, such as kissing, touching, oral sex, etc., can not only heighten anticipation but also heighten the connection you share with your partner. You can also take this opportunity to explore each other’s erogenous zones such as nipples, neck, buttocks, thighs, etc. to increase stimulation and keep them guessing for more.
Slow down
As discussed earlier, intercourse is great, but there is something to be said about anticipation. Slow down the pace, savouring each moment to enhance your connection and prolong the pleasure.
Try perpendicular sex positions
Try novel sex positions to help add a layer of excitement, as well as reduce your stimulation so you can last longer. One variation is the spooning position, which naturally promotes a slower rhythm. Another is opting for the cowgirl position, which reduces stimulation and provides a change of pace.
Make the first round quick and take time during the second one
When you’re amidst a marathon, you can always decide which movie you want to play longer, right? The sequels are better in many cases—including this one. You could make the first round quick, get the orgasm done with, and use the refractory period for increasing sexual stamina. Pro-tip: get through another round of foreplay or oral sex as you recover from your first orgasm to make your partner climax!
Have them masturbate beforehand
Masturbation allows your partner to release built-up sexual tension, reducing the likelihood of reaching climax too quickly during intercourse. Plus, the refractory period reduces sensitivity, helping them last longer as well as gain better control over their orgasm.
Try something new
Inject excitement into your sessions by trying something new. This not only helps build anticipation but also helps you know your partner well. For instance, try out Durex’s card games that are full of fun, risque, and flirty questions to help you spice up those nights and add excitement—remember, there are no losers in this game, after all!
Try edging
One of the simplest ways to delay orgasm is by practising edging. Edging involves intentionally delaying orgasm, resulting in a more intense and prolonged release. When nearing orgasm, pause or switch to a less stimulating activity. This break allows arousal to reduce slightly before resuming.
Give the start-stop technique a try
The start-stop technique involves briefly pausing stimulation. Engage in sexual activity as usual, but pause or completely stop movement when nearing climax. This technique helps in delaying orgasm and enhancing overall endurance.
Squeeze the base of the penis
When you feel close to climax, gently squeeze the base of the penis for about 30 seconds. This can temporarily stop ejaculation and extend the duration of sex.
Sexual endurance conditioning
Sexual endurance conditioning is using solo practices or activities with your partner to improve your sexual stamina. This can involve physical activity, such as swimming or certain exercises, or mental activity, such as meditation. Regular endurance training has been shown to positively impact male sexual libido over time.
Manage your stress levels outside of sex
Stress can negatively impact sexual performance. Adopt stress-management techniques such as meditation or yoga to create a more supportive environment for extended pleasure.
Set aside uninterrupted time for sex
Allocate dedicated, uninterrupted time for sexual activities. This helps create a relaxed atmosphere, allowing both of you to fully engage without distractions.
Lifestyle changes
By incorporating certain lifestyle changes, you can create a foundation for improved physical and emotional well-being, which enhances your overall satisfaction and enjoyment in both daily life and sexual experiences. They include:
Good sleep hygiene
Quality sleep is crucial for hormone regulation and overall vitality. Good sleep can help regulate testosterone, which positively affects not just your libido but also your overall sexual endurance. Aim for 7-9 hours per night to support sexual health and energy levels.
Eat nutritious food
A nutritious diet supports overall health, including sexual function. Include foods rich in vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants for optimal well-being.
Limit alcohol
While a glass of wine may set the mood, excessive alcohol can impair sexual performance. Consume alcohol in moderation to maintain control and prolong pleasure.
Quit smoking
Smoking is associated with sexual dysfunction as well as a disrupted hormonal balance, affecting sexual desire. Not to mention smoking has also been linked to poor sperm quality and poor ejaculation output. Quitting smoking, therefore, can lead to improved overall sexual health and endurance.
Physical workout
Physical activity enhances blood circulation, boosts energy levels, and positively influences mood—all of which contribute to improved sexual well-being. Some physical training that can additionally help you includes:
Do Cardio and Strength Training
Cardio improves blood circulation, stamina, and overall cardiovascular health, while strength training builds muscle, boosts metabolism, and enhances physical stamina. Incorporate weightlifting or resistance exercises for improved overall fitness, contributing to better sexual stamina, and engaging in activities like running, cycling, or swimming that enhance endurance, positively impacting sexual performance.
Kegels
Kegels are not just for women. They strengthen pelvic floor muscles, promoting better control over sexual function. Regular practice can enhance endurance, improve erectile function, and contribute to more satisfying orgasms.
Get help
Sometimes, you might need additional medical support to help you last longer in bed, and that is okay. Seeking professional assistance demonstrates a proactive approach to addressing your sexual concerns.
Consider prescription premature ejaculation (PE) medications
If you are dealing with persistent premature ejaculation, consult a doctor. Prescription medicines may be required to address this issue. These medicines help you improve ejaculatory control.
Consider erectile dysfunction (ED) medication
Erectile dysfunction, which is the inability to achieve or maintain an erection, impacts your sexual performance. ED medications enhance blood flow to the penis, which helps you overcome this.
Consider sex therapy
If you are constantly struggling with performance issues in the bedroom, do consider sex therapy. A qualified sex therapist can guide you on improving communication, managing performance anxiety, and enhancing overall satisfaction.
Wanting to make your and your partner’s pleasure last longer in bed is normal, and so is taking the required steps you need to achieve that. Don’t shy away from experimenting to ignite excitement in the bedroom. Embrace the journey of discovery together, and watch as your relationship flourishes with passion, understanding, and lasting satisfaction. Stay safe, and keep experimenting!